In our weekly feature The Hook-Up, we set up single readers of The Grid and send them on blind dates around Toronto. Here’s what Stefanie and Kevin had to say about their date at the Backyard Axe Throwing League.
Stefanie is a 34-year-old talent agent who lives at Church and Wellesley. She likes cooking and going to concerts—“I’m a talent agent that specializes in live music, and it’s my passion, so even if I spend all day listening to music and thinking about music, I still like to go out and hear live music, even if it’s not work-related.” She adds, “I’m the person who gets the call when someone needs to put together an outfit for a special occasion as much as I’m the person who gets the call when someone needs to be talked through a complete meltdown.” Her ideal partner is “as bomb-proof as I am. I have enough drama with my friends and work.” Kevin is a 39-year-old former Parkdale resident who has “temporarily moved back to Hamilton” to fix up a rental property. He is the president and CEO of The Idea People, owns and teaches at the Impatient Theatre Co., and is a photographer. Kevin hangs out with his dog, does improv, watches a lot of TV and movies, and likes to travel. He says, “I have had a tendency to put the interests of others before my own, but I’m now focussing a lot on my own personal development.” Kevin is into women who are “intelligent, vibrant, social, confident and passionate.”
Stefanie on Kevin
“My first impression was that of mild confusion. I walked into the B.A.T.L. venue, and nobody really stepped up to introduce themselves. When I figured out who my date was, I thought he was dressed well and had a good haircut and good shoes, but he seemed to be a little shy. I felt like I had to take charge of the situation. He would have made a much better first impression if he had just introduced himself right off the bat.
“I really wasn’t attracted to him. I’m generally attracted to very confident men with strong personalities to match my own, and I just didn’t get that confidence from him. It’s a drag for a girl to have to walk into a first-date situation and feel like she immediately has to take charge. Maybe that’s just a function of my personality and something that I tend to do naturally, but I’ve been around enough naturally confident men to know the difference between a man who just takes charge, and a man who needs a little guidance.
“The [axe-throwing] lesson was pretty hilarious. I’ve been to B.A.T.L. before, so I knew the rudiments, but I’ve never been that good, so getting an actual lesson was great. Kevin picked it all up pretty quickly and eventually beat me. I’m hyper-competitive and tried to be a gracious loser, but it wasn’t easy. Because Matt [Wilson, the instructor] was there, it alleviated a lot of the first-date awkwardness; throwing axes around is a great way to ‘break the ice,’ as it were. Once Kevin’s initial shyness wore off, we had a lot of fun goofing off with the axes and hamming it up. I spent a lot of time swearing at him and calling him names when he hit a bull’s eye. I liked his sense of humour, and we both laughed really easily.
“Otherwise, we mostly talked about work. Kevin’s a photographer and showed me some of his stuff, which I thought was really good. I told him I work with bands and he expressed some interest in shooting them, so it got very work-y and not very date-y. He gave me his card at the end of the date, but it wasn’t in a ‘let’s get together again’ kind of way.”
STEFANIE RATES THE DATE (OUT OF 10)
Kevin’s manners: 7
Kevin’s sense of humour: 9
Kevin’s hair: 10
Kevin on Stefanie
“When Stefanie walked in, I knew instantly that we would have a good time. She has a great attitude, and she’s confident and approachable. She had been there with a friend before and had contemplated joining the league, so I immediately felt at a disadvantage and knew my manliness would be tested. Needless to say, it survived the date.
“Stefanie’s not the kind of woman I would typically date. I wouldn’t ask her out on a romantic date, and I don’t think she’d be interested, either. I would, however, happily set her up with any of my single friends. She’s a very lively, spicy woman. We got along really well.
“We began with some instruction, and after a number of warm-up throws, Stefanie and I had a standard match, which I won. Stefanie was in her head, throwing bricks, which we were told is common as soon as competition enters the picture, proving that the competitive setting was an issue; Stefanie threw an amazing dead-on bull’s eye on her first shot after the match. We graduated from hatchets and had a couple of throws with a full-sized axe; it was exhilarating. There was a lot of laughing and joking and friendly ball-busting.
“Stefanie is an outwardly confident, ambitious person who absolutely loves what she does. You can hear the passion in her voice when she talks about music. I think I’m looking for someone a little more settled, a little more relaxed, and a little less brash. I wouldn’t want her to change a thing because she’s perfect for someone, just not for me. After the date, we walked out and parted ways.”
KEVIN RATES THE DATE (OUT OF 10)
Stefanie’s style: 9
Stefanie’s hair: 8
Stefanie’s axe-throwing: 6
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