Michelle is a 26-year-old interior designer who lives in Parkdale. She describes herself as introverted and neurotic, and says, “I love to blog and read blogs about design and decorating. I also like reading, people-watching, and spending time with friends.” She met Courtney on Craigslist.
My life’s pursuit is centred on two main objectives: beautifying people’s homes and finding a life-changing love. In a partner, I value sincerity, honesty, modesty, and sensitivity, and someone who loves to give and receive affection. I was constantly feeling let down by the relationships I was having with men, and I decided it was time to explore my bicuriosity. I thought maybe I was better suited to romance with a woman. The thought of actually pursuing it was scary, but I think it’s important to do things that scare you.
I put an ad on Craigslist, and after multiple threesome requests from couples who wanted to mix it up, and replies from lesbians who seemed like they were just looking for sex, I got a sincere and interesting message from Courtney. Her picture was really cute, and she identified as straight but was bicurious, like myself. I really liked that she also didn’t have much experience.
Courtney suggested that we meet at a bar on the Danforth. Strangely enough, this was one of the rare dates that I was not at all nervous for. I always have nerves going into a date with a man, but something about my date with Courtney just felt right. She was pretty, but there were a few small things that turned me off when I met her—one being her style. Courtney was in her late-20s, but she dressed too immaturely and casually. She reminded me of Phoebe from Friends.
The date was good from the start. I think we were both relieved to be able to talk openly about our curiosity with -someone who was going through the same thing. I have best friends from my hometown who are strictly straight—I know they would be okay with me being bi, but I don’t think they would adjust right away or understand completely. We talked about normal first date topics, too. After getting to know Courtney a bit, I realized that her style actually suits her; she is very quirky, but sweet. Unfortunately, I wouldn’t say that I’m romantically attracted to someone with that type of personality. I like people who are a bit more realistic, and who take charge. The date ended, after many drinks, with us standing outside of the subway. I wanted to kiss her, but I was too nervous with other people around. I went in for a hug instead. I know it’s 2014, but I was raised Christian, and I knew that my family wouldn’t approve.
We never saw each other again because I started dating a man shortly after. He and I had more intense and instantaneous chemistry, but I’m glad I had explored something new—even if just for one date.
Michelle rates her date (out of 10): 8
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