James is a 24-year-old grad student. He says, “I’m really into food, music, and triathlons…. I’ve been single for a while and sometimes find it difficult meeting new people.” Ginny is a 23-year-old political staffer. “Work consumes a lot of my social life,” she says. “But I’m also a sports fan, and I like to go out to the bar for a few drinks.”
James on Ginny: “Ginny was easy to talk to and we found common ground fairly quickly. She ordered fish and chips, and a salad to start. I was a little worried when I heard her order the salad, thinking that she might be ‘one of those.’ I felt as though I was doing a lot of the prodding and she wasn’t asking many questions in return. It definitely wasn’t the best first-date conversation I’ve had, but it was far from the worst. After we finished our meal, we
went outside for a wander. It was difficult to tell if she was interested or not.”
Ginny on James: “The date was pleasant—not awkward, but definitely not a hit. From start to finish, I think it was clear that there wasn’t, and wouldn’t be, any kind of romantic spark. James had a lot of questions, which meant that there was rarely an awkward silence. He was very nice, but not my type. I’m pretty confident he felt the same way. We just didn’t hit it off. The meal was nice.”
Server says? “They seemed a little nervous, especially the guy. The body language was awkward but as the meal went on they loosened up.”
How’s lunch for a first date?
› “I must admit, a lunch date is not really a typical first date for me, but it definitely keeps things casual.”—James
› “It was nice for a first date, very casual and took some of the pressure off. It does take away from the potential for romance but it was welcoming and not intimidating.”—Ginny
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