Astrid is 25 years old, works in sales, and lives in Parkdale. She describes herself as quiet, but ballsy at times, and more of a listener than a talker. She likes “new things”—“new bars, new drinks, new people, and new music.” She switches between online dating and the bar scene, depending on how she’s feeling. Astrid met Jack online.
Jack and I had a great initial date, and then a few more great ones. He was cute, sexy, and really genuine in a way I’m not used to. But we knew that no matter what happened, there was an expiry date on the relationship; Jack was supposed to move out of the country less than a month after we met. A few dates in, I asked him if he had ever considered going to a sex club. He told me he’d never thought about it, but was interested. I wanted to do something wild before he left, and it seemed like the perfect place to try something new.
We did some research and chose a club that we both felt comfortable with. We arrived after dinner and drinks. I was excited, but definitely nervous when we got there. I didn’t know what to expect or how I would feel, and I didn’t know what would be expected of us. I wondered if there would be creepy guys asking for threesomes, or if we would be asked to swing or anything like that. Jack seemed less nervous than me.
The club was really nice and clean, and the people who worked there were really friendly, which helped. Jack and I walked around. At first, it was more about observing and talking than having sex. Everyone minded their own business. I was still nervous, but was getting more turned on and into the scene.
Being in a room with four other couples having sex (and one woman watching) was quite the experience. My first interaction with another patron came when a middle-aged woman wearing nothing but stockings and heels introduced herself to me. She was really nice, and it made me feel less awkward. Jack and I watched two other couples go at it; they seemed to be having a lot of fun. Sex in semi-public does it for me. Jack and I checked out the different spots around the club, and talked about what turned us on and what we wanted to try.
There are times when I can be a little self-conscious of my body—this was one of them. But after watching the other people, I got really comfortable being there, and that’s when Jack and I decided to have some fun of our own. We started by making out on a bed near a few other couples. It was hot. We stopped to grab some drinks, then decided to go for it: We got it on in full view of everyone, in an open part of the club. Being an exhibitionist, I loved it. I’ve never experienced anything like it. It was also the perfect send-off for Jack.
Astrid rates her date (out of 10): 10
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